Ruts are a natural part of life but they don’t have to be where we spend the majority of it. When the random pendulum of life’s unknowns smacks us in the face and sends us down a proverbial ravine, we have to dig ourselves out.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, folks (I think it was built in 6). Don’t freak out if you’re in a rut. Inhale. Exhale. God doesn’t hate you. This doesn’t always keep happening to you. You’re not so unlucky. Realize it’s part of life. Why you? Why not you? Once you’ve gotten past the denial stage and admitted, “Yup, this is definitely a rut and I’m not the first person in history to be in one,” do one thing in the direction of getting out of it. Just one. That one thing might not feel like a lot but it’s the first push of many against Mr. I-don’t-like-changing-directions inertia. To hell with inertia.
Keep pushing and stay dedicated. Inertia can’t hold its course forever. You’re too strong.
Slowly on, you have built up a whole lot of mini-accomplishments and you’ll see your path out to day light. Funny enough, it’s probably not the path you imagined when you dug deep and cast out your first mound of dirt.
So grip your shovel and get ready for some blisters. Fortune rarely favors those with a sense of entitlement.
Note: One of the easiest ways to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to join a group. Joining a group and meeting just once a month is said to increase your happiness as much asdoubling your income would.
Personal Story: 4 years ago, I was unemployed, down on my luck, professionally lost and in more debt than a bad Vegas story. I didn’t see any way out and all I really wanted to do was be dramatic and kick rocks. It made me feel better. After some tough love from my family, I slowly but surely started sending my resume out to one company at a time. 4 months and 250 emails later I was still jobless but on about email 251, that all changed because that was the email I sent out to all my friends and acquaintances explaining my situation. But I couldn’t have sent that email had I not sent the previous 250, my pride was too strong.
Sure enough, I got a ton of replies from people in the same boat and a bunch of emails offering me up ideas and avenues to employment. After chatting and brainstorming with a few friends I ended up getting a great job where I still happily reside. Had I leaned on the group dynamic earlier, I may have been out of my situation sooner, but I know, pride and denial is a tough thing to battle.
I learned that digging yourself out a rut takes time but leaning on others and utilizing a group dynamic sooner can accelerate your rise to normalcy much, much faster.