Feel Free To Say No

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Is it me or has anyone else been confronted with a bunch of people claiming that they are going to start “saying yes to everything this year” as a way of incorporating change and happiness in their lives?

Sorry folks. This idea is idiotic.

People who say yes to everything end up, unaccountable, undisciplined, in debt, and neglecting two kids they didn’t want in the first place.

It should be a general rule that anytime someone gives you black or white advice regarding the most all-encompassing word in the English language, tell them to stop eating so many fortune cookies, and then run for the hills.

Use your head. Saying yes to everything is just another way for you to outsource accountability and it keeps you from having to really decide what’s most important in your life at any given time.

It’s true, if you never do anything new or never inject yourself into unique situations, the homogeneity of your life will eventually be what runs you in. But if you never know where to draw the line, you’ll end up being everyone else’s guinea pig.

Because your experiences are heavily dependent on which opportunities you say yes to.
But the work you get done is wholly dependent on all the opportunities you say no to.

Know the difference. Know what it is you’re trying to do.

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I’m writing this right now on a plane over the Sahara Desert on my way to Tanzania for a safari and a trek of Mt. Kilimanjaro. I don’t tell you this to brag or to inspire you to want to kill me, I tell you this to say that I had to originally say yes to wanting the experience, and then I had to say no to the things (interruptions, money wasters, health compromisers, January projects, clients) that would keep me from being where I am right now.

Saying yes is easy. Making things happen after that yes takes a whole lot of no’s.

I’ll be off the grid for the next 2.5 weeks and not sure when I’ll be able to post next but I’m thinking that Bucket List Management 101 could be a candidate for next post.